Privacy and Tweens

This morning was a typical example of what it's like to have 2 girls one an older tween and the other just on the verge, getting ready for school. The oldest one goes into the bathroom and she closes the door. The little one comes barging in to get the hairbrush. This causes chaos. All I can here is screaming and the older one calling the little one names and the little one giving it right back to her. I of course am partly to blame for this because I took the lock from the bathroom and put it on my bedroom. This was for my husband and I to have privacy. The girls always like to just come in our room.

I completely understand where my daughter is coming from. She doesn't want to be walked in on no matter what she's doing. She is at the age where she's developing and she gets embarrassed. She feels awkward and she certainly doesn't want her little sister coming in and bothering her or worse asking her why she now suddenly has a chest. I get it and I have asked the little one endlessly to stop walking in on her sister. It's a struggle. She just doesn't see what the big deal is. I truly hope that she will listen soon because the way I see it she's going to be wanting the privacy very soon.

My oldest also has taken to going into her room for some piece and quiet and the little one just comes barging in to ask a silly question. I think it's mostly because she wants to be with her. It's hard. I understand her desire for privacy, but I don't want her to be mean to her sister.

Well, I guess it's just part of growing up. I myself was tortured by my two younger brothers. It got to the point where my mother got me a lock for my door. I don't want it to come to that. I don't think there should be a need for either girl to have a lock on their door. I'm just going to have to push the respect each other's personal space spiel. This is going to be difficult for the little one. Oh well just part of parenting I guess.